Frustration = Parenting?
I don’t claim to understand the reasoning and motives behind other people’s behavior but I there seems to be an increased number of incidents lately where I have been unable to understand another’s view point, alone motives. So here’s the scenario that I don’t understand at all:
A person’s parents are decently well off, we will call this person Sally to have as generic a name as possible. Sally’s parents are not only well off, but the father has worked at many high level (and even fortune 500) companies. Throughout all of Sally’s college career, her parents have supplier her with a monthly allowance so that she can take care of any additional everyday expenses beyond tuition and the like. As for tuition itself, that is covered by financial aid, scholarships, and a few grand that Sally comes up with each year to make up the difference/remainder not covered by scholarships. With this allowance, Sally covers personal food that isn’t on the meal plan, entertainment (on occasion for the allowance doesn’t cover a huge amount of activities), monthly phone bill, and any other expenses that might be incurred during the course of the month.
Well, the summer semester is approaching and Sally is now looking for an internship or job that can fill the summer semester between academic semesters. Well, she has been considering non-paying internships because they typically better augment and enhance a resum? than other opportunities. Suddenly Sally finds out that her parents will not be able to pay her monthly allowance because her father hasn’t gotten a new job yet and the family doesn’t know if they will be moving during the course of the summer to accomodate. They then follow this with trying to get Sally to come home for the summer which not only seems extremely unproductive with the possibility that she won’t be able to hold and job should she even find one in her remote home town.
So now Sally is saddled with expenses during the course of the summer that she doesn’t have a means to pay for, pressure to come home for the summer, and no idea how she is going to come up with the means to pay for her summer expenses. I simply don’t understand the motive behind the wishy-washiness of the parents or the lack of support that is being offered to their daughter because she is looking for a job that will enhance her resum? instead of one that will cover her summer expenses. When Sally asks for advice, her mother tells her that she shouldn’t waste her summer working for a non-paid internship and should work on earning money. The ironic part to this entire scenario is that Sally’s parents want her to succeed, expect her to succeed, and put a lot of pressure on her to succeed. How they expect her to succeed when they limit her possibilities so severely is beyond me, ESPECIALLY in this present economy.
That is my rant/point I am lacking understanding of at present. I am sure at some point a solution will be found for with time, there will be a result regardless of it being a good or bad solution to the problem at hand.
